You Can't Win If You're Talking
My 4 year old perfected avoiding bedtime. She had to use the restroom, needed water, was hot, wanted a snack, and had something important to tell us. Her blessed heart even tried to drag out her prayers by listing every person and animal she knew. Her bedtime was 9 pm, but every night we wrestled with her until 10. The next morning she’d be knocked out cold with her mouth gaping wide. Trying to wake her was nearly impossible. One night, in my frustration, the Lord gave me a brilliant idea to start doing a sleeping game. Whoever goes to bed first wins. She bit because she’s competitive; however, sheeeeeee didn’t quite get the point. She kept talking!!!! 😩 Finally, I said, “You can’t win if you’re talking.” That’s when God met me on my home court and dunked on me.
That statement wasn’t just for her, it was for me too. It specifically reminded me of the Bible app plan called “Choosing to Lose Wins in Marriage,” in which he tells you to practice not doing the thing you’re good at for the sake of your relationship. For me, that meant talking and reacting. My husband may have picked the fight (or perhaps it was me) but I was going to end it cuz you ain’t bout to disrespeck me. My opener: “You know what?” My closer: I can’t remember because I did so much talking 🤪 He couldn’t remember either with all the blabbing. The moment I stepped foot into chattered terrain, I lost no matter if I was right. I admit things didn’t change that revelatory night; it has taken time. I practice cherry-picking my words and how I say them. But I try even harder to listen. How are you winning in your marriage by losing? Tell us below.